pain + non-acceptance = suffering
We want to share an example to bring this concept to life: Monica was very much looking forward to a school dance, but it was the same weekend as an important family obligation out of town. Monica knew it was important to her family that she attend. Monica went through a range of emotions when she realized the dates conflicted. She cried, she became angry at her family, she thought “why do these things always happen to me?” Monica was miserable. After a few long and hard hours, Monica decided to radically accept the situation. The situation was still not ideal and Monica accepted there was nothing she could do to change it. Instead, Monica was able to FaceTime with her friends for a bit before the dance, and she also made plans for a fun sleepover with some of them the following weekend. Although this situation was really hard for Monica, accepting the situation for what it was allowed her to be able to appreciate the time with her family during the weekend, rather than being irritable or moping around that weekend, and she was also able to find a way to have a different kind of fun with her friends at another time.
Distract with ACCEPTS
This is a skill set comprised of seven distraction strategies that can be remembered through the acronym ACCEPTS.
Myths about mental health.
Walking the Middle Path
One of the goals of DBT is to “walk the middle path.”
Emotion regulation skills focus on understanding emotions, building resilience, and decreasing both vulnerability and suffering through skill use.
Not only do our relationships impact our emotions, our emotions impact our relationships.