Wise Mind Practice
Michelle loves acting and has received positive feedback from teachers and peers for past performances. Last week, the head of the Drama Club told her that she may not be picked for a lead in this year’s show. Michelle became very emotional and less confident. She is starting to put less effort into her audition and beginning to have thoughts like, “what’s the point of doing this if I’m no good.” She is considering dropping out of the show. Michelle is in emotion mind! What facts do you think Michelle might be ignoring? What do you think her wise mind might guide her to do?
Now let’s practice finding your wise mind:
- Find a comfortable space.
- Think about a problem in your life.
- Consider different aspects of this problem. What are your emotions around this issue? What about the facts of the situation?
- After you’ve observed the problem, ask your wise mind for guidance. Tap into your intuition and look for your gut-feeling. Do not perceive it in a judgmental way.
Wise Mind refers to a state of being where you are balancing both logic and emotions which increases the ability to make effective decisions.
Validation is the communication that someone’s experience, thoughts, emotions, and behaviors make sense, even if we don’t agree with it.
Walking the Middle Path
One of the goals of DBT is to “walk the middle path.”
Emotion regulation skills focus on understanding emotions, building resilience, and decreasing both vulnerability and suffering through skill use.
Not only do our relationships impact our emotions, our emotions impact our relationships.